I think I have mentioned that I have
and walls of my paintings at my house. Granted, many are because I’ve been learning, practicing and developing my personal style over the past six years that I have been a caregiver.
And trying to stay sane.
And, sanity… brings me to how much I appreciate RESPITE CARE.
Before I begin to discuss respite care I feel for most people not close to the dementia world I should begin with giving my best definition:
Respite: a short break from engagement in something, anything really, that is especially difficult.
Remember respite during primary school days?
School recess is a respite we most of us can relate to. It was where we once so easily threw off the frustration of the strict classroom and climbed to the top of the monkey bars to hang by our knees.
Remember being a new parent? (Or business owner… I think anything that is truly your “baby” would compare to the feeling…). As a new parent I remember feeling at a loss when I went out without my baby for the first time.
It was a similar experience when I took my husband to the adult day care. I sat in my car with no plan. Now what? Who am I even?
A couple years down the road I now know what to do.
Respite care is never long enough. If I choose to paint I lose track of time which is why I don’t usually paint. I don’t mind at all painting when he’s home. So even if I have a compelling artistic venture I choose not to paint during my respite time. Instead I…
- run errands
- have coffee or lunch out with friends
- make a great grocery list and shop carefully for as long as I want
- do a household task that’s hard to be in the middle of with him here
- pay bills
- make important phone calls
- study my bible and memorize scripture
- read a book
- clean out a closet, a drawer
- make plans, lists for things I need to do but am putting off… like tackle the garage. (The garage is last on my list (always). Does anyone else have the problem that the garage feels… foreign and full of spiders. I need to take the space over and make it work. Well I will be inducing a little self therapy on that very soon… like next Spring… I kid, really.)
Respite ought to leave a person refreshed. Cleaning out the garage during my respite time might do that in the end.
Tomorrow I will discuss a few small Respite Care Reform ideas I have that would help me. And, since respite is for me, the caregiver, I don’t mind divulging my ideas.
And, look for a future post with the great garage clean out. I think.